Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Kudos To Gay Rights Activists

Last year, the Washington State Supreme Court ruled on a case involving gay marriage and asserted that the state can ban same sex marriage because the state has a vested interest in preserving marriage for the purposes of procreation. What a crock of shit!

In response to this ruling, initiative 957 was born. I-957 will require all married couples to file a “proof of procreation” within three years of the marriage. If the Supreme Court of Washington says marriage is for procreation, then that ruling has to apply across the board. I absolutely love this initiative, can’t wait to sign it and hope I get a chance to vote on it! If it takes an insane initiative to hammer home the pointlessness of excluding same sex couples from the institution of marriage, then by all means do it. Some people need to be hit over the head with their own hypocrisy before it sinks in, and vigilance is the most effective means of change.

I watched the Super Bowl last Sunday and I saw the Snickers commercial where the two men, eating from opposite sides of the candy bar, meet in the middle in a kiss, after which they proceed to rip out their chest hair (and other “manly” behavior) to prove their manhood. I thought the commercial was funny, not because of the kiss, but because the men were portrayed as ridiculous. I was a bit surprised by the uproar that arose from gay activists after the ad aired. My first reaction was, “lighten up”, but upon further reflection, I realized that they are exactly right to make a fuss and I was completely wrong in not seeing the problem instantly.

Disgust and violence, even when directed inwards, should never be portrayed as the appropriate response to homosexual behavior. That’s an incredibly dangerous message, whether subliminal or overt, especially considering that hate crimes against gays and lesbians are still prevalent. But perhaps even more importantly, analyzing and labeling this commercial as homophobic, moves the debate forward and challenges, very publicly, the fallacy that two men kissing is anything less than manly.

The ad has been pulled, a sign that we’re making progress on the issue, progress that has only been made due to the vigilance of gay rights activists, and I thank each and every one of them for that. As a parent, I want my children to grow up in a world that is not only tolerant of differences, but understanding and accepting of those differences. It is easy for heterosexuals to forget that those fighting for gay rights are fighting for us as well. Many of us will have gay children, and if our children are able to grow up unafraid of violent reactions to their sexual desires, proud of who they are and free enough to express their inner most feelings, we will have the gay and lesbian activists of today to thank.

So thank you to all who fight for equal rights for gays and lesbians. Thank you for moving this debate out of the closet and onto the pages of our newspapers. Thank you for your vigilance, thank you for your sacrifice and thank you for all of your hard work in making this country a better and safer place for all of our children.


Anonymous david said...

What confuses me about the idea that marriage is for procreation is that shouldn't the Christian Right then bless Lesbian marriage? I mean, aren't two women able to be twice as fertile as an opposite sex couple?

The 3 year rule is quite amusing. Particularly in that it exposes the hypocrisy of these "defenders" of marriage in not outlawing marriage between older people.

But the Christian Right wants America to be defined as a Christian Nation, an English-speaking Nation, and a predominantly White Patriarchal Nation. Same sex marriage, open immigration, and women's rights threaten this fantasy.

But the secret is to hold "laugh ins". To ridicule these stands by passing motions like the 3 year rule. I'd also recommend Liberal/Progressives should be more vocal about their spirituality by joining an organized religion, either Christian, Hindu, Buddhist, Muslim, Jewish or other. And I'd also recommend they learn a second language --just to show the Christian Right what it really means to "speak in tongues".

10:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had the same type of reaction to the Snickers commercial as you, but like your post on abortion, you clearly describe why perhaps it was completely offensive and sends a poor message given its context as a TV ad.

The reason I had no problem with it was that I find homosexual male sex disgusting. I have no problem saying that. Much like I find rimjobs (of any fashion) disgusting.

My brother is gay. I love him. I have no issue with his homosexuality. Never had (he's a bit older than me and was 'out' when I was only 12. I'm now 31.) Just because I find the act of male homosexual intercourse, um gross, doesn't mean I'm homophobic, have repressed latent gay desires, or discriminate against anyone that is gay.

I understand people are different and have varied needs and desires. I am certainly not disapproving of any type of sexual orientation (as long as it isn't violent).

The reason I state all this is because I found the TV ad funny because it resonated with these feelings and furthermore, I thought, at the same time parodied the ridiculousness over-reacting to such feelings.

After reading your post, I can see why it's a bad ad. I'm sure some would take the ad as reinforcing the image that being gay or anything remotely considered gay, as a deplorable thing.

11:51 AM  
Anonymous diane said...

This is really a slippery slope. Does that mean the the state can/will demand that couples reproduce? At least 2 children to replace themselves?

12:43 PM  
Blogger isabelita said...

Heh heh heh - She said "slippery"!
Oh, for crying out loud. The damned Snickers ads were aimed at redneck morons, and the people who love them. Always with the lowest common denominators.
I'm never touchin' another fucking Snickers, and it has long been one of my favorites.
Wasn't Prince a breath of fresh air?

5:42 PM  
Blogger The (liberal)Girl Next Door said...

David--On the laugh-in front, I'm also a big fan of pushing legislation to ban invitro fertilization on the basis that it destroys life. I'd love to see the right-wing pander monkeys vote against that one and blow their "culture of life" bullshit defense, or vote for it and have all of their infertile Christian constituents freak out.

Anonymous--I think you're right that not all people that find the idea of homosexual sex unpleasant (or gross as you put it) are homophobic (or latent homosexuals), but the broader point (which I'm not implying that you missed by the way) is that violent reactions to it are not okay and even mildly demeaning responses must become socially unacceptable. The kiss was fine, the reaction was not.

Diane--I'm not sure it is a slippery slope since marriage isn't mandated but rather a choice that two people make. The reasons people enter into marriage are as varied as the people who choose to marry, and when the Supreme Court ruled that marriage is for procreation, they opened the door to invalidating all of the other marriages that were entered into for reasons other than procreation, say for example, companionship in later life, shared goals that don't include children, and let's not forget love.

Isabelita--I'm with you on the Snickers and they were one of my favorites too. And yes, Prince was a breath of fresh air, although I find the air a little less fresh now that the overtly sexual Prince has been tempered by the Prince who found God. I love his music and he's a great entertainer, but I miss the dirty Prince!

6:38 PM  
Blogger jae said...

There are people who think that being 'gay' is a CHOICE.

Yeah, like anyone would choose to be ostracized by society and live a life where they had to pretend to be something they weren't every day in order to not be pelted with disrespect and hatred.

I don't get it. I am as hetero as they come and I don't get the focus on Homosexuality as a target for morality (or...whatever).

I do know, however, that it is sickening. And I have to wonder, too, what is up with the focus group for the Hate Homos folk? With modern life as it is, haven't they got enough to do?

Holy Cow.

9:51 PM  
Blogger jae said...

This is probably inappropriate (it hasn't stopped me yet!!) .... but ....

I absolutely LOVE that LGND allows ALL comments on this blog, and does not screen for desirability before posting the comments.

In the age of "I'll let you say it's ok if I agree with it" mentality, I feel that Mollie should get a 5 star rating.

Just my $.02, of course. LOL!!!!

9:56 PM  
Blogger The (liberal)Girl Next Door said...

Thanks Jae. The only thing I don't like are personal attacks, but that doesn't happen very often around here so there's really no need, most of the time, for me to moderate at all.

In fact, I have deleted only one comment in the entire life of my blog, and that was because it was a personal attack, with no substance at all, and it wasn't directed at me. Those I let stay. I figure that since I put myself out there, I'm fair game. Besides, there are usually plenty of you nice folks out there that jump up to defend me before I even get the chance to defend myself!

10:29 PM  

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